One of the books that has profoundly and positively impacted my relationships is Brene Brown‘s book Daring Greatly. In it, the researcher/storyteller as she calls herself, sets out to discover what differentiates people who seem to have a strong sense of worthiness and who, therefore, tend to be more successful in all aspects of their life, career, relationships, love, …
Through her many years of research, Brene Brown concludes that what characterizes those who have a strong sense of love and belonging is a belief that they are worthy of it. What these people have in common is courage, compassion and connection. As you can see in one of our featured videos this month, of compassion she says:”first to yourself and then to others.” Because if you can’t have it for yourself, you can’t have it for others.
They also had vulnerability.
They were not afraid to let their true feelings show, their true selves. They didn’t pretend to be who they were not and they were not afraid to take risks, they see failure as part of the growth process. This point is also very well-articulated by Myriam in her article on suffering as a means of growth and happiness.
Vulnerability, says Brown, is at the core of shame and fear and our struggle for worthiness, but it is also the birthplace of joy, creativity, love and belonging.
So go out there and be yourself, in all your faulty glory, because we are all human and we all have shames and fears. We are all vulnerable.
Make sure to read my article on having easy conversations with difficult people. For a dash of amazing health and wellness, we give you tips and ideas on that all-important super spice: turmeric. We also have fantastic and inspiring videos to watch, so take your time browsing and enjoy this April issue of ILoveMe!